When you’re a mom, it feels like balancing motherhood is a constant battle that you fight daily. For me, it has been a rough few weeks. It has been the kind of moment where you feel like everything is coming at you one after another and you can’t do anything right.
Work, Drama, and Sickness
First off, I had to do something at work that I didn’t feel comfortable doing. I mean yes, it is work; I get that. But it was the first time that I felt bad because doing my job involved me ruining someone else’s day.
And then that same week, some stranger threatened my family. Nothing extreme, but it still involved me to call the nonemergency PD to take precaution. And even though that person later apologized for their in-the-moment behavior, I still didn’t know them enough to trust them and it still had me on edge, with my anxiety at an all-time high.
Lastly, Keira ended up getting sick. This is her very first time getting sick! It was bound to happen and it’ll build her immune system, but that doesn’t make it any easier on a parent.
She’s been battling teething for awhile and throwing a virus on top of that had her in a very (understandably) bad mood.
It has been very challenging at times to balance work and making sure that my family is taken care of. And usually, when I have my hands full with that, other areas of my life suffer like my passion (blogging), free time, and sometimes sanity.
It’s frustrating because it seems impossible for me to give a 100% to everything because I feel like I’m being pulled in so many different directions. The sad part is I think my family suffers the most. Sure, they are taken care of, but they don’t get 100% of me, 24/7. And that is so hard for a mom to realize.
I’m constantly beating myself when I can’t do it all like it’s a crime. Like someone is going to come out of nowhere and punish me, for not getting stuff done. Feeling like a complete mom failure, always thinking that I’ve should’ve done better. I’m always feeling pressured to be Super Mom 150% of the time.
I know that it’s impossible, but I’m beginning to realize that I’m constantly having to remind myself that it really is ok when you don’t have it together all the time.
Hell will not freeze over if you didn’t have time to do everything on your list.
Your family, work, and life will be OK.
So if you’re like me, and having these moments more often then you’d like, I’m writing to tell you that it’s ok. It’s ok that your dishes have been in the sink all day. It’s ok that you didn’t have time to cook dinner and you grabbed the kids Mcdonald’s on the way home. It’s ok that you have clean clothes that you have to pick out of the laundry basket because it’s been sitting for days unfolded.
You’re doing the best and that’s more than anyone else needs. Instead of being hard on yourself on the things you didn’t do, remember the accomplishments you had today.
If the kids are fed, clean and content, then you have done your mom job for the day. And no matter what challenges you face, you get to move on and start the next day with a fresh set of hours to be a kick-ass mom again.
When it’s all said and done, your family won’t remember the to-do tasks you failed to check off your list.
They do know all the things you continue to do, and they will remember what a great mom you are and how always held it down so effortlessly.
So don’t doubt your mad mom skills for a second.
Because they don’t.
So to that working mom, the stay at home mom, the breastfeeding mom, the formula feeding mom, the mom that lets her kids eat fast food for dinner, the mom whose house is a mess, the mom with the unfolded laundry, the mom who forgot the one thing on your list that you went to the store for, keep at it mama. You are AMAZING.
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Thank you so much for reading! XOXO