It’s hard for me to wrap my head around the fact that I’m now 33. I have learned a lot over the past years, and I decided to share some of the best of these birthday lessons I’ve learned with you.
My Birthday Weekend
But before I do that, I just wanted to say that this weekend was one of the best weekends I’ve had in a long time. First, I got a massage! The last time I got a massage, it was a prenatal one when I was pregnant with Keira. Then, I got a manicure and pedicure. But more importantly, my husband really stepped in and gave me a much-needed break from the kids. We ended my birthday with dinner which was great because my mom was in town.
Overall, my birthday was well spent getting pampered, relaxing, and spending much-needed quality time with the family. And essentially, that’s all I really wanted and it was the BEST! Can I just add that I had my first sips of wine (I was hesitant to drink the whole glass and fall over in the restaurant) in well over 3 years now! HAH! Talk about an accomplishment! And I know what you’re thinking, but don’t worry, I’m sure I’ll work my way up to drinking that full glass in no time!
How old are you?
Above all, this “30”s ish” age that I’m currently in is a really weird phase! It’s like, I’m young, but I’m not young enough to be considered cool (per my oldest kid). And although I feel old, my coworkers, some of who are in their 40’s and 50’s, will tell me otherwise.
But it’s also a little funny because when someone asks me how old I am, I have to take a calculator and do the math. It’s the I’m-not-old-but-I’m-so-busy, I-forget-how-old-I-am-phase.
Anyways, back to the reason for this post. Every year, I reflect on the past year, and all the birthday lessons and think about all that has been in that one year. And I saw one of my favorite mom bloggers, Lauren Ashleigh, did a birthday lessons blog post for her birthday this past year and knew I wanted to do one for myself.
I think it’s fair to say that if my 20-year-old self would saw me at now, she would be proud. I haven’t quite figured everything out yet, and have made a ton of mistakes over the years. But I’d like to think that I’ve also grown tremendously and succeeded in many other aspects of life. So here they are, my life birthday lessons at 33 years old, in no particular order…
- Don’t let anyone tell you anything. Lots of people you encounter, even those who care for you, will have an opinion about your life at one point or another. At the end of the day, you know your own life better than anyone else. Don’t let anyone’s thoughts cloud your own judgment. Do not let someone be the author of your book.
- Don’t take yourself seriously. This is an ongoing battle that I’m trying to win. With life going 100 miles per minute, it’s always better to remember to laugh.
- You don’t have to know it all. Really, you don’t.
- NOTHING is worth holding a grudge. This may sound cliche, but life is too short to hold a grudge on anyone or anything.
- Budget your money. I am on this new kick about budgeting money. If I could’ve told my 20-year-old self one thing, it would’ve been to budget more effectively.
- Be grateful. No matter, what be grateful for what you have. When you feel like you are facing your biggest issue, someone always has it worse.
- You are right where you need to be. Often I find myself trying to plan “life” out and be 10 steps ahead. And yes, for certain events, you have to plan. But for the most part, don’t stress, keep going and being your best self, and then let the chips fall where they may. Everything ALWAYS works out the way it should.
- Find a balance. I am not going to say to stay away from coffee, and junk food because, let’s be honest, that stuff sometimes keeps us going! I honestly don’t know what I would do without my half a cup of coffee every morning! But make sure to throw in a salad and fruit every now and then. Your older self will thank you.
- When it comes to friends, quality over quantity. 10 years ago I thought it was the best thing to have a HUGE group of friends. But when it comes down to it, I can count the number of GREAT close friends I have on my hand. They have always been there for me and help me continue to be the best person I can be. Find those few super special people, and don’t LOSE them!
- Your mother and grandmother can make great best friends. Invest time with them.
- Not everyone cares. Which brings me to this lesson. To be brutally honest, most people DO NOT really care how things are going in your life. Some people are just nosy. Be cautious of what you share with others.
- Dry shampoo will change your life. Just trust me on this one.
- True love takes effort. My husband and I have been married for 5 years and together for 10 next year. It is not without effort. We are learning as we go and grow. Make time for your relationship, be honest, and don’t take each other for granted.
- Don’t compare yourself to others. That does absolutely no good. They are probably looking at your life and wanting something that you have as well.
- Time helps heal. I didn’t say that time will heal everything, but it will help. There are so many moments where I thought “I can’t do this anymore” but pushed through and was able to overcome.
- Be grateful. I know I grumble and complain from time to time, but I am truly grateful for the life I have. Spend time cherishing the gifts that you were given.
- I need my kids more than they need me. My kids are my motivation and a lot of my WHY. They have each taught me so much that it’s scary to think what my life would be like without them. I started school to better my life having AJ, was motivated to finish school from having Mila and decided to pursue my dream of blogging having Keira. They ignited fires in me that I never knew I had.
- Slow down. We are all busy and have a lot going on, don’t let that keep you from LIVING.
- You don’t need much in life to be happy. I am on this journey to live a more simple life with my family and can fully attest to “less is more.”
- People will disappoint you. I can’t stress how many times I would assume that things would go a certain way and then didn’t. Even those who “care” about you will let you down. The sooner you can accept that fact into life, the better off you will be.
- Be KIND. There is so much hate and not enough kindness in the world. Be kind in every chance you get, in any situation. You never know when that will make a difference in someone’s life.
- Social media is the devil. OK, its not; but too much of it is. Although I love using it to catch up with old friends and make new ones, I’ve put a daily time limit on Instagram daily–and it’s worth it. Try it out.
- You are stronger than you think. You are stronger than you think, do not become your own worst enemy. When you feel like you cannot go on any longer, you will push through.
- Put down the phone and LIVE in the moment. No explanation is necessary. Be like NIKE and just do it.
- There is no perfect family. No matter how beautiful their pictures are, everyone is going through hard times and different things. Don’t let the pretty squares serve you a false advertisement.
- You deserve the BEST life. Don’t settle or let anyone tell you otherwise.
- Embrace change. Because no matter how well thought out your plans are, changes are inevitable.
- Nothing is guaranteed. This also sounds cliche, but it holds true. Make each moment count.
- Take risks. Leaving my “home” and moving to another state was a huge risk I was willing to take. And even though there are other things I’ve wished played out differently, this risk has given me some of the greatest blessings.
- Give yourself a break. Mama burnouts aren’t a good look.
- Take care of yourself. Water, stay active and get adequate sleep. Nothing is more important than your health.
- Don’t go to the grocery store hungry. Or Target alone. Your bank account will thank you.
- Find your passion. Find that thing that one thing that *sparks* joy and pursue it, continuously. For me, I’ve found it here in blogging. It is my purpose, passion, outlet, and 4th child.
There you have it, my 33 birthday lessons! In conclusion, I just wanted to say, if you’re reading this, thank you. You have made my birthday week that much more special. Thank you for reading, supporting and stopping by. I’m so grateful when I get those messages about how well someone liked my blog or post! Here are some other posts you may like:
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